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A Season of Grief

Autumn is associated with the Metal element and is a time of cooling temperatures and shortening days. It is the season to begin to gather energy and begin an inward focus.

This element is represented by the Lungs and Large Intestine, organs that rule taking in and letting go appropriately. This is both on a physical and an emotional level.

Just as your lungs take in air and expel it, on an emotional level this element rules taking in that which is rightfully yours and letting go of that which has fulfilled its purpose. This includes the process of grief, of having to let go, especially of that which we feel we still need.

And current circumstances have presented many of us with great loss. We have had to let go of people, jobs, relationships, businesses, socializing, pets, natural spaces, our regular way of life.

On a personal note, we recently had to say goodbye to our 13-year-old dog, the magnificent Tuxedo Jones.

And grief is hard. The process of grieving can "take your breath away" and can keep us from breathing deeply. Sometimes grief can manifest as shortness of breath or a cough.

And the way to process grief is literally to keep breathing, to keep inhaling and exhaling while we feel what we feel.

I’m writing this because I think it is important to acknowledge that things are difficult, that loss is difficult, that uncertainty is difficult. And we don’t have to think positively or be artificially cheerful. Loss comes with the territory of being on the planet, of the cycles of nature, and we aren’t in charge of it.

We can only go through our grief or get stuck refusing to feel it.

So, if I can be of assistance during this time, please reach out. I have put together an online program to support respiratory health. You can read about it here. You can also watch my class Taking Care of Your Lungs During This Hot Mess here.

If you want support but aren’t sure what you need, definitely reach out and we can figure out what resources might help you. (

Keep breathing. 

“It is in being at peace with the notion that heaven gives and takes according to its own divine plan that loss and grief may be healed.”
Lonny S. Jarrett, Nourishing Destiny